If that suffice to answer the question, you don't have to read more and do continue to live daddy's dream, mother's obsession (or vice versa), neighbour's fears from tax collectors, friend's failure with his girlfriend/boyfriend or your children's mania for
SIMS 2 (
SIMS 3 coming). Yes, that's pretty demanding lifestyle ... Until it is covered by glitter of an idea you are normal (meaning that your mind is normal) and from time to time you have glimpses of something special that is expected to happen to you in the future - you are OK and safely frozen.
There is also a "life insurance" in this respect - someone out there is in turn always living parts of your own life more or less, so in the case of an accident, you can safely rest and watch how others are doing your deeds, you're covered.
How is that happening? You are tied to follow and obey to something, that I call the glittering
crust (GC) and society call it mind (well-known thing). The trick lies in the fact, that GC

continues to freeze the remaining emotional body into certain pattern and once it is done, you are well done.
The GC (mind) must always be fixed on something, its seat is actually the peak of an iceberg of your emotions. GC is frozen set of exactly chosen small list of particles of emotions that are approved. Approval itself is not important and authority in charge as well, they change during time in history, in various nations, in men and women, in being black or white, on Earth or in Galaxy. I wrote
elsewhere, that 1 emotion represent a 1K of thoughts, so you can imagine, what was and is striped off. You are striped off. (This is less known thing.)
Thus following
the white rabbit, how that can happened that the GC used to be more or less the same for so many human beings? Is that by acquired education, or by adopting cultural habits, or ... ? Nope. - You (and everyone else) have exchange your energy and emotions with those that were looking for it, those that love you, hate you, feel for you. Exchange is usually done by criticism, anger, compassion, taking over someones responsibility, whatever. Everyone of us is that mythic Atlas keeping the world of others together. (
Wikipedia says, that Atlas is used as a

metaphor for the people who produced the most in society, and therefore "hold up the world" in a metaphorical sense. - Cool, holding up the world and receiving bits and pieces of what you are, this is what I call reward ... Anyway it is well known thing for some guys doing
this and
that.)
Here you can find one of the main flaws of
Ayn Rand philosophy, which being so ele
gant and rational in theory misses understanding, that its principal requirement - having your own life as the highest value against which any other value has to be measured - terminates in vain of current reality, - you don't live your own life, so you measure against common life of people surrounding you and forming your close or wide circle of energies frozen within you.
One of the proofs, that you live other's life, is that enormous passion worldwide, regardless being young and old, small and big -
to save the world, to make peace in world, help others, being
curious about others, ... Who sane would do that and sacrificing his/her own life for such purposes if there is so many things to do just for yourself? - No one, because everyone is just up to saving his own life, making peace with yourselves, helping yourself and family, looking for to discoveries who she really is (this is partly known for
aficionados). But as your energy and emotions are spread worldwide in other beings, what else you can do then just go, fly,
jump out there and save their world? What a noble deed.
Now consider perspectives. You are fighting for someone others life that you absolutely don't understand and that other guy is fighting for your, pretending that he knows exactly what you need. Isn't that brilliant maze? Yes it is. Sure thing is, that it can last forever, if this is your choice. Or scale it up - one nation wants to help the other one with aid, food, fight for democracy - what a bang and mess ... Isn't that dangerous? Well, no until you say yes and you say yes, else it wouldn't be happening.
The proof that your GC is set to be the only ruler over "your" life, is in the opposite the existence and use of alcohol, marijuana, adrenaline sports, enjoying ovation on the stage, being child, ... - all that temporary melt down that GC and you can enjoy something ..., whatever. Then the GC re-crystallizes again and you are back on road.
But there must be at least one beneficial aspect of being frozen like this, keeping only the GC shining your way forward - and it is actually that you are becoming very effective in living others life, their dreams. Having even fewer set of life duties, you can create stronger effects. Actually you needed to pull together a lot of energy to get persuaded and lured to replace your life with other's, so you usually remain with charge for only 2 - 3 major undertakings of your life and not more (graduating from college, marriage, rising kids). Sometimes they happen to be more exotic like
taking over some
enterprise ,
having a lot of women (men), enlarging your collector's
set of butterflies - everything is good unless you don't question your GC you posses.
Another example you may find when looking at the countries where the GC is in general strongest and so they are reaching high efficiency in their national economies and material prosperity. USA, UK, Japan, Denmark,... everything there is effective and predictable, they used to be called stable and safe from perspective of investors and you will find a little of emotions in personal life of their citizens. On the opposite side countries like Russia, the Middle East, India, all of them you may call unstable, strange, unpredictable but you can't deny that emotions and free flow of energy in human beings is incomparable to the first (frozen) set of countries.
Next - are those that are considered
powerful, influential, famous, bright, wise, illuminated in somewhat better situation then you? - Obviously not, they only own stronger GC and extend their illusion and naivety into different spheres. And they somehow recovered a piece of their own energy and emotions in the field they became know and famous, but as this specific field is usually a dream of their neighbours, parents or lovers, they just follow the same pattern as you do. Anyway, they do their best, so who can blame them. And yes, they are able to provide you with that glimpse of nice future as a sort of magic trick that you require to keep your life moving on.
Your choices were and are:
1. No choice. Melancholy and no joy in life. Denial that anything like that happens. Sometimes a slight melt down of your GC with with beer,
stock exchange, ... but you can still relax from time to time and that counts.
2. Shrinking even more the GC you own and you can end up with very specific "crusty" diamond and getting your own Einstein title in the science, or
W. Buffet in stock exchange, even become one of another
top 10 con men.
3. Do some technique like this one on
seven days mental diet and hoping that something will change. Anyway, you already tried at least something from the following for duration of seven days in your life - being a child, drinking alcohol, etc..., so how can any such a technique do a slight difference in your life, if it is not aiming straight into transfer of energy and emotions between you and other beings? (A little known fact.)
If you were able to get so far in your reading, in the next article you may find some clue from our perspective on what may be more effective and comfortable.